"I See A Thousand Losers"

Below is a Speech I stumbled upon and I felt the need to share it.. I actually find it very funny...

 "Graduates of Yale University, I apologize if you have endured this type of prologue before, but I want you to do something for me. Please, take a good look around you. Look at the classmate on your left. Look at the classmate on your right. Now, consider this: five years from now, 10 years from now, even 30 thirty years from now, odds are the person on your left is going to be a loser. The person on your right, meanwhile, will also be a loser. And you, in the middle? What can you expect? Loser. Loserhood. Loser Cum Laude.

"In fact, as I look out before me today, I don't see a thousand hopes for a bright tomorrow. I don't see a thousand future leaders in a thousand industries. I see a thousand losers.

"You're upset. That's understandable. After all, how can I, Lawrence 'Larry' Ellison, college dropout, have the audacity to spout such heresy to the graduating class of one of the nation's most prestigious institutions? I'll tell you why. Because I, Lawrence "Larry" Ellison, second richest man on the planet, am a college dropout, and you are not.

"Because Bill Gates, richest man on the planet -- for now, anyway -- is a college dropout, and you are not.

"Because Paul Allen, the third richest man on the planet, dropped out of college, and you did not.

"And for good measure, because Michael Dell, No. 9 on the list and moving up fast, is a college dropout, and you, yet again, are not.

"Hmm... you're very upset. That's understandable. So let me stroke your egos for a moment by pointing out, quite sincerely, that your diplomas were not attained in vain. Most of you, I imagine, have spent four to five years here, and in many ways what you've learned and endured will serve you well in the years ahead. You've established good work habits. You've established a network of people that will help you down the road. And you've established what will be lifelong relationships with the word 'therapy.' All that of is good. For in truth, you will need that network. You will need those strong work habits. You will need that therapy.

"You will need them because you didn't drop out, and so you will never be among the richest people in the world. Oh sure, you may, perhaps, work your way up to No. 10 or No. 11, like Steve Ballmer. But then, I don't have to tell you who he really works for, do I? And for the record, he dropped out of grad school. Bit of a late bloomer.

"Finally, I realize that many of you, and hopefully by now most of you, are wondering, 'Is there anything I can do? Is there any hope for me at all?' Actually, no. It's too late. You've absorbed too much, think you know too much. You're not 19 anymore. You have a built-in cap, and I'm not referring to the mortar boards on your heads.

"Hmm... you're really very upset. That's understandable. So perhaps this would be a good time to bring up the silver lining. Not for you, Class of '00. You are a write-off, so I'll let you slink off to your pathetic $200,000-a-year jobs, where your checks will be signed by former classmates who dropped out two years ago.

"Instead, I want to give hope to any underclassmen here today. I say to you, and I can't stress this enough: leave. Pack your things and your ideas and don't come back. Drop out. Start up.

"For I can tell you that a cap and gown will keep you down just as suredly as these security guards dragging me off this stage are keeping me down..."

Do you agree with his line of thought??

Speech culled from here

The Things That Truly Do Not Matter

Every day, we all start on a clean slate – 24 new, shiny hours to fill as we see fit. So, do you spend those hours building lasting relationships with family and friends?  Or do you spend them in the pursuit of meaningless endeavors? When it is all said and done, the phrase “you can’t take it with you” applies to everyone—no exceptions. But, what you can do is leave a lasting legacy of faith, hope, and love, leave your footprints in the sands of time, leave your name on people's lips, leave your presence in people's hearts...

Sequel to The things that truly matter, I've managed to compile a list of things that do not matter, i mean DO NOT MATTER!! at all. Please feel free to make the list longer with your ideas!

1.Sports Results: Competitive sports are great. They provide hours of entertainment and fellowship. They can unite a family, friends, or even a city around a common goal—to win the big game! However, when the buzzer sounds or the clock runs out, it was just that—a game. Keep it in perspective.

2.Unrealistic Expectations: Don’t let your joy be robbed by others’ unrealistic expectations of you—or your own expectations for yourself. Life is too short to feel like a perpetual failure. Find your own unique purpose for your life and do the best you can.

3. Destructive Emotions: Asking for forgiveness when you’ve wronged someone is important. Granting forgiveness when someone has hurt you is just as important. If someone has caused pain or heartache in your life, you are only hurting yourself by letting anger, resentment, or bitterness remain in your heart. Let it go and move on with your life.

4. Vanity: We live in an air-brushed world. And, it can cause us to be obsessed with how we look, feel, or measure up to others. Remember, your value is in who you are, not in how you look or what you do. You were created exclusively by God and for God.You are handmade, custom-designed, and fully loaded by God.

5. Technology:  Modern conveniences can be wonderful things. The Internet helps businesses flourish.  Cell phones provide a new level of safety by never being out of touch. While technology can be a positive in our lives, remember the significance of a face-to-face meeting or enjoying an entire dinner without texting. Nothing is more important than our personal relationships.

6. Wealth:  The love of money is the root of all evil. Having money in and of itself is not evil; the love of money is. How you acquire it and what you do with it may be planting unwanted weeds—greed, excess, jealousy—that need to be pulled out by their roots. Living comfortably is a blessing. Being obsessed with wealth is a curse.

7. False Idols: Fame, fortune, power, and pleasure don’t really matter in the end.They are just false idols that we pursue because we think they’ll make us happy. But our real joy and satisfaction can only be found in God.

8. Social Media: Your amount of Facebook friends and Twitter followers do not matter at all (except for entrepreneurial purposes). Don't make a big deal out of it too, after all, in the next few years, more than half of them would be dormant

9. Complaints: We’re raising a generation of sh-t talkers. In your workplace this is a cancer. If you have issues with management, culture or your role & responsibilities, SPEAK UP. Don’t take those complaints and trash-talk the company or co-workers or even lecturers and classmates on lunch breaks and anonymous chat boards. If you can effectively communicate what needs to be improved, you have the ability to shape your surroundings and professional destiny. If you cannot, please keep your comments to yourself..

10. Worrying about the wrong people:The ladies of The Real Housewives of Orange County, they’ll survive without you. The family members and friends of The Kardashians, they won’t notice your absence if you stop watching their show. Even the private lives of your elected politicians and local public figures mean nothing in the grand scheme of your own life.

But your significant other, your friends, your children, your siblings, extended family members – these are the people who truly matter to you. Give them your time and attention. They’re the ones who deserve it.

11. Gossiping:Gossip is the evil. If you want to know something about someone, ask. Don’t assume; that’s how gossip grows and spreads.If you’ve talked to more than one person about something someone else is doing, it’s time to step forward and actually talk to the person you’ve been talking about. And if it’s truly ‘not your place’ to talk to this person, it’s likely ‘not your place’ to talk about them either.

Ultimately, you should focus on judging less, loving more, and resisting the temptation to gossip about others, or portray them in a poor light. Be impeccable with your words. Speak with integrity. Avoid using your words to gossip about others. Use the power of your voice to spread truth and love only. 

Remember!, Happiness is easy when we let go of the things that do not matter...

I guess we've learned one or two things today. Feel free to write what shouldn't matter to you in the comment box!!..

Changing the World, the Little Way We Can

One of my biggest hopes in life is that I will make a difference. I’d like this world to be a little better because I am in it.

However, “change the world” isn’t an easy item to put on a to-do list. Where do you even begin?

Here are eight great ways to change the world for a better. They’re all fairly quick – all things you could do today. Which will you pick?

(And if you think of any others as you’re reading these, leave a comment with your ideas. Let’s see how long we can get this list!)

#1: Smile At Everyone
It’s such a tiny thing, but it really does make a difference. Smile at people – the folks on the bus, or the receptionist at the office, for instance.

#2: Write a Letter to Someone You Love
If a letter sounds like it’ll take too long, how about a card or postcard? Write to your parents, or siblings, or a relative who you don’t see very often but who you care deeply about. Let them know how special they are to you.

#3: Create Something Unique
Being creative is a great way to change the world. It might not seem like much – but your poem, painting, tapestry, special recipe, blog post, etc, may well outlast you.

#4: Donate to Charity
Small donations add up, and if enough people give just a few dollars, lives can be changed. At this time of year in particular, you might want to think about giving to a charity close to your heart. If you’re not sure where to start, I’d recommend the UNICEF donations to charity.

#5: Sign a Petition
The world of politics can feel remote from our daily lives. Perhaps you currently live in a country where you dislike the governing party, or where you disagree with decisions being made. By signing a petition, you can help make your voice heard.

#6: Help Others
Commit to changing yourself and your life and your consciousness, and you will do for the world all that you need to. Follow your instinct regarding what you are meant to achieve, and follow it even blindly at times. In all of my experiences, I have found, people who are most happy, and whom are doing what they believe they are “meant” to be, are always, without fail, aiding someone else at the same time.

#7: Say “Thank You”
It’s such a tiny thing to do – but saying a heartfelt “thank you” can mean a huge amount to someone. If you’re in a management position at work, take the time to thank your subordinates for what they do. In your family, thank your partner, parents or kids.

#8: Give Your Time
Many of us don’t have much spare cash to give to charity – but we often overlook the other gifts that we can give, like time. Maybe you could stuff envelopes, knock on doors, shake a collection tin, or perform some other admin task.
There are loads of ways you could make a real difference in the world, today. What’re you going to do? If you’ve got ideas which aren’t on this list, add them in the comments!

Depending on your culture, this might feel a bit awkward. Give it a go anyway! People may still respond brilliantly to a smile.

Take it further: Give out free hugs. 

Take it further: Look for a group or charity that asks for pen pals – perhaps writing to a sick child, or to someone in prison. Your letter or card could make all the difference in someone’s day.

If you don’t think you’re creative, try putting together photos into an album, or digital photos into a custom-made book.

Take it further: Offer your creative skills to a local youth group, school or retirement home. You could paint a mural, run a class, organize a concert …

Take it further: Fund-raise for a charity. 

Take it further: Write to your representative, and make your concerns known personally. Letters have more impact than names on a petition.

Take it further: Write, phone or email someone in your community to thank them for the role they play.

Take it further: Offer particular expert skills. Perhaps you’re a web designer who could create (or update) a website for a small charity, for instance.

This reminds me of Gandhi’s admonishment, that we should all be the change that we wish to see in the world.

Note; The single greatest act we can undertake to change the world, is to change ourselves – for the better. Smiles, letters, thank you’s, and charity are all beneficial … but the one thing the world starves for are live living examples of possibility!

The Things That Truly Matter

There are very few things in life that really matter...

We waste spend  a lot of time worrying–worrying about what was, what might have been, what should be, could be, will never be. We worry about the inevitable, the possible, the probable, and the unlikely. We worry about what people think and say and believe and how they feel. We worry about things that We cannot change, cannot know, and will never control.

When it comes down to it, there are very few things in life that really matter. What matters most–and always–is what’s real and right in front of you and yours to value and cherish and protect. What matters most are the people you love and the people who love you. Once you whittle your life down to the essence, suddenly everything becomes easier.

Here's a list of what i think really matters in life;

1. God
2. Family
3. Clean breath.
4. Sound digestion.
5. Good quality sleep.
6. A daily connection with nature—even  watering your plants or taking a walk in the park count!
7. Being able to keep your promises.
8. A dream to aspire to.
9. A hobby or leisure activity that soothes and ignites your soul.
10. A real friend: someone you can really talk to, cry before and laugh with.
11. The comfort of a meal or movie shared with family.
12. The luxury of a place of your own—even if it is a cosy little nook in a tiny home.
13. The joy of coming  back to a home that invites you to relax.
14. Celebrating  the small victories and joys of life rather than waiting for big dollops of good news.
15. Being able to see the silver lining.
16. Being able to listen before you judge.
17. Waking up with something more than just routine work  to look forward to.
18. Going to bed knowing that you made someone’s day a little happier today.

Easier said than done, for sure. It is our nature to worry and regret and lament. Such a waste of time. There are so few things that really matter. Spend your time enjoying that which makes you the best person you can be. If you don’t have that in your life now, then I wish you well in finding it. If you do, and you’re still looking for more, then stop. Otherwise, you will get lost in the muck and forget to notice that what you have is really all you need.

Reach for the stars, but stay grounded in what makes you feel alive. Never take for granted that what surrounds you now will be there forever. Don’t overlook what you have in favor of looking for something better. Chances are that what you have is better than many people can ever imagine!

P.S; You can add to the list in the comment box! *winks*

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1. Best Personal Blog
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15TH MAY 2007 EPISODE 4

Overnight, my life turned into a shadow of its old self. My father became worse than over-protective as a result of what happened. I wasn’t allowed to go anywhere without a female body-guard. I became frustrated and my pain knew no bounds. Every night, I cried myself to sleep and woke up with sore eyes. There was no night that I didn’t suffer from night mares of being raped or abused. Inside me, I developed intense fear of the male gender. If I came out of the house and saw a man, I would shiver like a leaf despite the fact that I had an escort that followed me everywhere I went.

My situation was actually worse that I can describe. Let me explain better! On a Sunday morning, while we were at church as the pastor preached, I found myself turning right, left and centre hoping that no man was going to come and attack me. And then, something mysterious occurred. The Pastor who was preaching on what I didn’t care about began to walk towards me. As he came from a distance, I was still relaxed until he was very close to me and that was when my outburst began. In reflex, I began to shout “Don’t come near me”. It was probably the most embarrassing day of that Pastor’s life. To crown it up, I had to stop my schooling because of the pregnancy.

I found nowhere to vent anger except on the fact that boys where responsible for the damaged life that I now lived. Slowly but painfully the venom in me towards men built up into gross hatred against the opposite sex. My fear of them graduated into solid hatred towards them. I never wanted to have anything to do with any boy or man.

I looked up at Henry who was deeply engrossed in the wild story of my life. I noticed that he struggled to stop tears from flowing down his face and had concern written in his eyes.

“So what happened to the baby?” he asked gently as he stretched forth his hand towards mine. If he had done that a few days ago, I would have given him an ugly scowl but I found myself allowing him to hold me.

After pausing for a while, I responded sadly “I lost the baby”.

NOTHING TO LOSE

I was watching an interview Steve Jobs granted in 1994, and he was asked why he and Steve Wozniak kept on going when they were making the very first apple computer which was Apple 1. He said something like; we figured out that we really had nothing lose, if we made the Apple 1 and it was a flop no problem, if it turns out to be a great product then fine.

Knowing that there was really nothing to lose in the venture made them give their all to realizing the product. and I quote from Steve Jobs again, the only thing you truly have is time, make good use of it... 

and really you have nothing to lose, follow your dream, follow your heart especially if you're still young.

Release Date Of "9INE" Season 2 Episode 1 #WhyILoveSexSeries

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MY OWN WAY - A POEM

How long will i be intimidated
by the voice of my most hated?
For how long will this continue
Before it changes to a different tune
I ask myself the same questions
Must i subsume my interest for theirs?
Even if i did
Would they notice my good deed?

I spin round in confusion
My intellect can no longer comprehend this
why must i be the most wanted?
Why cant humans or once be glad?
For once consider my emotion
my emotion they hurt with intent of destruction
I sought to free myself from much guilt
i can no longer destroy my confidence built.

I realize
Finally I have the truth discovered
No longer would i seek to please others
Becaause even if i did,
Critics would still rise in numerous orders
Life itself is a personal race
"Survival of the fittest" so they say
I have decided in my most brilliant sense
That they can have their best say
But i would have my own way
My world, My Life, My say, My rules...


Written by: Simi Adewale
https://www.facebook.com/bdsihanna

15TH MAY 2007 EPISODE 3

I spent weeks in the hospital before I regained consciousness. Even after becoming conscious, I began to have nightmares were men pursued me with a bid to rape me or molest me. I woke up either screaming or crying profusely. 15^th May 2007 marked a negative turning point in my life and the beginning of my hatred for the male gender. As if that was not enough, something even worse happened that practically threatened the course of my life. The night I arrived home from the hospital, my parents insisted on having a conversation with me.

The look on their faces read fear and extreme uncertainty. After an awkward moment of silence, my father broke out gently “Simi! your mother and I love you gently”

“And we want the best for you” my mother’s voice followed him.

“What’s happening?” I immediately probed. The fear in their eyes heightened as they turned away from me. “Daddy,Mummy, I’m the last person you should hide anything from” I voiced out in pain.

“It’s just that...” My father’s voice broke away. Just then, the door bell rang and in came visitors who came to sympathize with us. Truth was, I really didn’t feel like seeing anybody. It took hours before the last set of visitors came. Through it all, I felt very scared and uncertain.

Out of anger, I barged into my parents room and screamed “Just tell me what the problem is!”

“You’re pregnant” My father responded angrily.

9INE WITH IWEANYA VICTOR SEASON TWO

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15TH MAY 2007 EPISODE 2

On the 15^th May 2007, I had just finished my examinations as a junior student in Thelma International School. I hopped out of class excited when my father’s driver yanked me angrily and stated that we had to get home immediately. That was his usual style so I wasn’t surprised and obeyed willingly.

As soon as we got home, I ran up into my room angrily wondering why I didn’t get the chance to celebrate the end of junior class with my other class-mates. I was still fuming when I heard a gentle knock on the door. It was Uncle Musa, my father’s driver. Before I could utter another word, he pounced on me.

I tried to scream but he held my mouth and promised to kill me if I told anyone about it. The next five (5) minutes took me on a journey of misery that was going to lead to even more problems for my life. Uncle Musa raped me and when he was done, he threw me on the ground like a useless rag and left. We never heard of him or saw him after then.

That night, when my parents returned; I was about to inform them on what had happened to me when a knock was heard at the door. On opening it, a gang of young teenage boys came into the house with guns in their hands. After demanding for all the money my parents had, the oldest looking boy dragged me angrily and threw me on the floor. At that point, my father began to beg them not to do anything to me while my mother was crying hysterically on the ground. Their pleas fell on deaf ears and one by one, each of these rascal teenage boys raped me.

By the time they were done, I was thrown on the floor mercilessly. The last thing I saw was my mother running towards me before I went into a black out.