Tyler Perry's Temptation #RelationshipLessons [GUEST POST]

 I just watched Tyler Perry's Temptation: Confessions of a Marriage Counselor yesterday and even though I'm a single man I learned some vital relationship and marriage lessons:

1. As the man, the most important person in your life is your lady but don't ever assume she knows this. Tell her all the time. Women like to hear good things about themselves.

2. As a man, don't ever assume some things don't matter, like when she changes her hair or wears it differently or when she puts on extra makeup.

3. Dear Mister, don't ever forget her birthday.

4. Dear Mister, even if you don't have much, give her all you can. Always support her dreams, hopes and aspirations. She'll love you for it.

5. As a lady, never compare your man with another, you'll pay dearly for it. He is who he can be;
it's your job to make him more than he is. That's why you are his help meet.

6. As a lady, try your best to tell him when he upsets you, he can't read your mind.

7. Both of you must remember that your friendship is even more important than your romance.

Romance may fade, friendship will help you stick together through rough patches.



David Adeleke is a blogger and student who has love for knowledge and inspiration. He uses relatable experiences to inspire his readers and help them lead better lives. To connect with him, simply head over to his blog for his contact details and follow him on twitter as
@MrDavidAdeleke or send him a mail at adeleke.i.david@gmail.com. Visit his Blog: DavidAdeleke.blogspot.com

DON'T LET AN EXAM RESULT DECIDE YOUR FATE

I came across this Spoken Word Video and I haven't seen anything that has really expressed my mind concerning Education more than this video... Watch and be enlightened.

Introducing The Introduction

Ugorji Ebenezer (born August 23, 1993), better know by his stage name Riel, is a Nigerian hip hop recording artist, songwriter and record producer. Riel's first recognition was when he was featured on the song Forgiven by OJAY in the mixtape #FORGIVENMIXTAPE in October 2013. Shortly after was the release of his own single "Best I Could Ever Have" from his upcoming mixtape which also features vocals from OJAY.

His debut mixtape The Introduction - The Mixtape is due to be released in the last week of November 2013.

You can reach him on:

Facebook name: Ugorji Ebenezer

Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/RielsTheIntroductionTheMixtape

Twitter handle: @papersprings45

Here's the download link for Best I Could Ever Have

WHY I LOVE SEX EPISODE 2 - 9ine With Iweanya Victor

The Second Episode of the WHY I LOVE SEX series is finally out...... Watch the first episode here... Please watch, Enjoy and give a feedback..

Thank you so much!!

How Not To Fall In Love With Your Best Friend...

Sequel to Having a Guy as a Best Friend, Its Pros and Cons ,The  'Love? Maybe? Pro/Con??' can be a big decision to make. However, Is it possible to have a best friend of the opposite sex and not be romantically involved with them? The answer is YES!. Stereotypically  we may think if a guy and a girl spend time together more than they do with their other friends, then something more than just the usual friendship is going on between them. But in a world of so much open-mindedness and equitability, there are other choices.

Here are some tips that I find useful since my best friend is also a guy *blushes*. He gives me all the reasons to fall in love with him, since he is so the ideal type, but I try my best to always have my counter strikes. I choose not to; I want not to.

1. START YOUR FRIENDSHIP WITH THE END IN MIND. It is important that you, on the very onset of your friendship, set your mind that your best friend will always be your best friend, nothing more, nothing less. The 'mind over matter' rule could still apply. Make a personal rule that it is forbidden to entertain any thoughts regarding your best friend being your ideal partner, or else, you will always hold on to that mental note and eventually, label him as an ideal partner not as a best friend. Whenever your mind accidentally crosses that line, shake it off as soon as you can.

2. CHOOSE NOT BE ATTRACTED. It is normal and sometimes inevitable to be attracted to your best friend. But of course, you have become the best of friends because you have seen qualities in each other that you find fascinating or plainly, attractive. So, don't feel so bad or sheepish whenever you feel attracted but learn to go back to reality. Whenever you see his best side, humorously divert your attention to his worst side. It helps. From being the good looking, almost perfect best friend to his eccentricity of singing like a frog, or farting like a pro, if there is such.

3. VERBALIZE HOW YOU SEE HIM AS YOUR BROTHER (OR A SISTER IF YOU'RE A GUY!). This is again for your own sake. It is to season your mind that there is a red line between liking him and loving him like your sibling. Call him brother all the time (Even if he hates it sooo much). Associate him with your real brother, if you have one. Having a male best friend is so special and gratifying, because you could always ask him a male's point of view regarding anything, for free. It is expedient to run to him for an advice regarding your personal issues, whether this is regarding your relationship with other people, or sometimes, economic issues, to draw the line that he is, indeed, your brother who could help you, even in the most non-romantic ways.

4. BE EMBARRASSED WITH THE POSSIBILITY. I suggest that you keep the cattiness, at least, just to not fall for your best friend. Just imagine how he could totally turn away from you, 360 degrees, if he finds out you are engrossing yourself with imaginations of things friends are not supposed to do. Well, technically, I would not know how on earth will he find out that he is involved in your phantasm, but just imagine how awkward would that make him feel that at some point, you have envisioned him being idealistically linked to you, in not so wholesome manner. Imagine how that would make you feel, too!

5. FINALLY, CHOOSE TO LOVE HIM AS YOUR BEST FRIEND. Personally, I could give my life for my best friend. I could give anything for him. There were moments when I would actually ponder if I was attracted to him in some other ways or if it was more of being overwhelmed that I actually have a man in my life who cares and loves me like his own blood sister, even if I am not his family. That is just way too much of a deluge sometimes. A man who is so good to you and so believes in you like no other men do. Minus all the sexual thoughts and intentions. That is, let me say it again, overwhelming, nowadays.

I was inspired to write this because honestly, I have been bothered by my having a guy best friend. Not really bothered by the relationship itself but how people around us see it. He would tell me how his guys asked him if he ever courted me, or how his friends would sometimes throw wisecracks at him regarding me as his just friend, or how my brothers would tease me every time I mention his name. I chose to be his best friend and that's what forever I will be( I hope so!). Again, it is a decision, not merely an emotion. The fact is, he is everything, well almost everything, that I would like my eternal companion to be- brainy, expressive, outspoken, artistic, hilarious and pompous, in a good way...but he is my best friend. Once again, I am able to find a very solid friendship founded on trust, confidence and love and I do not want to, even if this is just speaking theoretically, to ruin this one precious, oh-so-good-thing that I have with him, just because of my dopey and mindless self-professed feelings. Never. I know in my heart that both our intentions towards each other are always, chaste and objective. I will never ever fall in love with my best friend.

Warning!; Some expressions are over-exaggerated, and the use of the word "never" holds a lot of uncertainties  and even as sweet as our friendship sounds, we are still cats and dogs!.. Enjoy reading!

Having a Guy as a Best Friend:Its Pros and Cons.

Growing up, my interests skewed toward basketball rather than Barbie and I preferred getting down and dirty to getting all made up.

Over time, I learned that boyfriends and boy friends fell into two separate categories.

While exciting — especially if you went to an all-girls high school — getting up close and personal with guys can also be daunting.

Well, here’s what I think

On the Bright Side;

·         The nicknames: Calling someone you know so well by the same name everyone else does is booooooring. Usually derived from an inside joke or a shared experience that went horribly wrong, guys can come up with some pretty strange/awesome nicknames. If anyone else calls you a fat waffle muffin cat, they'll face a horrible, slow, extremely painful death. But when he says it, you look up, totally oblivious to everyone else’s snickers/horrified stares

·         No shame, at all:  Guys do stupid stuff. Guys do stupid stuff a lot more often and a lot more willingly than girls. Tell a girl to wear slippers to school and she’ll look at you like you're an escaped monkey with no brain. Tell a guy to dress in drag, hop on the back of a llama, and go sing at the closest karaoke bar, and he’ll ask you if his shoes match his dress

·         The partner:  Guys gravitate towards the person they like the best at any specific point in time. Having one for a best friend means a partner for every project, a person to talk to when the teacher says no talking, and an assistant to help you bury the body of the latest person to break your heart. Plus, a guy best friend can always act as a stand-in, non-awkward date to a dance.

·         Loyal, honest and low-drama, men are fantastic friends

·         Guys won't just freak out and get mad at you

·         He can give you advice about dating... He is a guy, and who knows guys better than guys?

·         There’s always someone to play FIFA with even though you suck so much he could possibly spell your name with his goals.

·         They're good at keeping your secrets. Then again, the right girl would do that, too.

·         They're helpful, and just generally fun to hang out with

·         When you look horrible, they'll give you they're big, baggy sweatshirt so you can hide*winks*.

But on the Other Hand;

The lack of “girlfriend” factor:  Guys aren’t girls. (No, really? Tell me more!) They have different issues. Other than the amazingly comfortable hoodies they own, you can’t wear their clothes. They don’t understand PMS, can’t give make-up advice, and never have a spare tampon.

The comments:  “Awww, you guys would make such a cute couple!” “You know you guys will get married someday! *wink*” People have this funny habit of sticking their nose in anything. Like sweaters, or grass, or my business. They suffer under the mistaken impression that any guy and girl that spend that much time in each othe

r’s company must be secretly madly in love and are just both too shy to confess. And this deep-running friendship is so strong; the pair should probably just go get married now and save everyone involved a lot of trouble. Actually, I know it’s really hard to believe, but being best friends with someone means you actually have to talk them. They know everything about you, including who you drool over. So as much as we act like a married couple, we aren’t ever planning on actually being one.

The “other woman”:  Eventually, if you pick a guy worth anything, he’ll get a girlfriend. An actual girlfriend, not a girl (space) friend. Suddenly you’re not the one he calls about the newest fascinating level of his video game. As much as those lectures killed your phone minutes, you miss them. Plans have to be made more than 5 minutes in advance, to make sure they don’t conflict with couple-y activities. And constant, obnoxious, sarcastic flirting is suddenly a big no-no.

Crushing: The guys picked to be best friends always are smart, adorable, sweet, talented, funny, and generally amazing(maybe, not all, but for me sha!) . In other words, exactly the same type I fall head-over-heels for. The plus side is you spend every minute with your crush. At the same time, having the guy you’re drooling over call you a little sister is about as romantic as dancing with your uncle at a wedding. Not exactly destining you for a lifetime of bliss together.

Love? Maybe? Pro/Con?? (That’s for you to decide); Sometimes, when Jupiter and Pluto align just so and Mars collides with the sun, things work out. This is a HUGE if, and can ruin a friendship if it doesn’t end up working. But if it does, you are part of an elite group of magical couples that simultaneously are twins, best friends, and an actual couple.

So, if you like a boy as more than friends, or dream of a future romance, make it clear from the get go. Otherwise, you may get very hurt when you express your feelings a year into the friendship and he doesn’t reciprocate because he’s firmly established that you’re a buddy, only.

Bottom Line: Always be aware of how you’re presenting yourself to potential suitors ;) and be sure to consider whether you’re willing to lose a best friend to maybe gain a boyfriend.

If you think otherwise or you have more ideas, feel free to comment....

Compiled by Iweanya Veronica